After all this dating, I’ve noticed some trends. Negative trends. Trending down to dating hell.
Let’s capture this. Let’s do a Top 10.
Top 10 Worst Dating Trends
(No particular order. All pretty shit.)
10. Boasting about bad habits.
We’ve all got insecurities, and they are on show for one and all to see when we go on a first date. Perhaps the worst example of this is the overcompensating dude who continuously refers to his debilitating alcohol problem like he is the most bad-ass mofo this world has ever seen. Come on guy. No lady wants to date a dude who is, apparently, blind from 5 pm Friday til 9 am Monday. It just ain’t cool.
9. Suggesting a date at a notoriously busy restaurant and not making a booking.
Clearly this is crap. You dress up fancy and get your hair did because he’s taking you somewhere nice that you’ve wanted to go for ages. He is either a social moron that doesn’t usually venture from his home (where he lives with his mum) or he doesn’t care enough to have made a simple phone call. You’ll probably end up at Maccas (all day breakfast tho).
8. Extending the date beyond the agreed activity.
If you agree to a mid-week beverage, you don’t agree to a mid-week beverage followed by a mid-week dinner followed by a mid-week movie. I am busy and important, and you can’t unexpectedly hog up my time, time hog! See the Best of the Worst for an example.
7. Turning your phone up super loud so everyone knows you get heaps of messages.
6. Not paying for your coffee/drink on the first date.
If only to avoid the awkwardness of you both having to fumble around for exact change, this is just one of those things that set the tone. If the date is average, the guy picking up the tab can be the deal-maker that gets him a second date.
5. Being rude to staff.
Obviously not cool ever. Sometimes I used to feel like some guys would do this on purpose to show their dominance. It was probably worse than if they were just a regular asshole.
4. Dudes who say they’ll think of a plan, and then don’t think of a plan.
There is nothing more awkward than meeting in the middle of the city, and standing around awkwardly while both parties scroll through their phones looking for somewhere nearby. Generally speaking, ladies probably want to think that you bothered to spare 5 minutes to think of somewhere nice to take them.
3. Dudes who clearly don’t want to be the one to think of a plan.
“That’s great that you agreed to meet me. So what should we do on our date?” and “I’m so pleased you said yes when I asked you to meet up, I’m happy to do whatever you want!” are potentially the worst ways to get someone to date you. Have a game plan. Stick to it.
Fuck the guy that wrote ‘The Game’. I don’t care that he was just using his dating powers to meet girls and that he was nice to them once he had their attention. The concept of negging is nasty.
For those not yet acquainted, negging is where a dude undermines a lady by giving a compliment before immediately insulting her. If he does it successfully the woman is left feeling like she has to prove something, often without realising what has happened.
E.g. “I like your hair colour, it must have cost a fortune,” is a neg. He likes the colour of her hair but undermines her by highlighting that it’s not real. Most women are dying their hair with the vision that it looks natural. Therefore, he’s being a dick by pointing out that it’s fake.
1. Unskilled use of negging.
Mm-hmm. When negging goes wrong. This is when the guy is too dumb to actually pull off the neg, so he just ends up insulting you.
A classic online-dating neg gone wrong can be seen in many online exchanges. He opens with “Hey [name that is the opposite of your name], how’s it going?” He’s trying to pretend like he has a million girls on the go by getting your name wrong on purpose. Either he can’t read your name at the top of his phone screen and is stupid, or he’s a shit negger. See The Masked Man’s attempt at negging for another example.
Sharing time! What other horrif dating trends have I missed?